All I could think about was how fucking awful of a thing it is to say to someone in an abusive situation that their partner can change, and how fucking much it scared me that he was allowed to teach people this and they were listening. And then he tried to connect "self-talk" to it and I thought "He is trying to connect this ridiculous bullshit to real-life horrible situations" and something in my brain temporarily broke down.

The further away from it, the angrier I get. Especially now that I've actively parsed the fact that he tried to turn my "experiences"--and he doesn't KNOW, I could have been severely beaten and raped for all he knows--to try to CONVERT me to his BULLSHIT anti-psychology.