Ashley (![[info]](http://www.insanejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif){kind=small} calamity_grace) wrote, |
This is fucking ridiculous.
Sure, some people, like maybe sufferers of PTSD from the war or something, can successfully treat their emotions and go back to their families. But a lot of those people grow up emotionally healthy, something awful happens to them, then they have to deal with that to go back to being emotionally healthy.
If someone was insisting to me that Dan and I could have solved all our relationship problems by communicating better, I would spit right in their face. He was a nasty person who continued to be nasty to other people after I finally got out of that situation, and will probably be nasty until he dies. Was his family life fucked up? Sure. But that's not a fucking excuse for his behavior.
Not to mention that if given this information most abusers would just use it against the abused! "Well, if you weren't fucking miscommunicating with me I wouldn't feel like I had to punch you in the face, baby."
I am angry that this man is allowed to spread this nonsense, and that he accused you of being close minded when he was doing the EXACT same thing he thought you were doing.
Some people are motherfuckers, no matter what you do. And a lot of us spent time trying to "save" the guy we were with until we figured out that all we got for it was a brief respite before he went back to beating the shit out of us or telling us that we were worthless whores and that's why no one gave a rats ass about us but him.
Fuck fuck fuck.
Sure, some people, like maybe sufferers of PTSD from the war or something, can successfully treat their emotions and go back to their families. But a lot of those people grow up emotionally healthy, something awful happens to them, then they have to deal with that to go back to being emotionally healthy.
If someone was insisting to me that Dan and I could have solved all our relationship problems by communicating better, I would spit right in their face. He was a nasty person who continued to be nasty to other people after I finally got out of that situation, and will probably be nasty until he dies. Was his family life fucked up? Sure. But that's not a fucking excuse for his behavior.
Not to mention that if given this information most abusers would just use it against the abused! "Well, if you weren't fucking miscommunicating with me I wouldn't feel like I had to punch you in the face, baby."
I am angry that this man is allowed to spread this nonsense, and that he accused you of being close minded when he was doing the EXACT same thing he thought you were doing.
Some people are motherfuckers, no matter what you do. And a lot of us spent time trying to "save" the guy we were with until we figured out that all we got for it was a brief respite before he went back to beating the shit out of us or telling us that we were worthless whores and that's why no one gave a rats ass about us but him.
Fuck fuck fuck.